What Should I do? Off topic question.

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whteglve

whteglve

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I know that this kind of stuff isn't related to the forum but I'm having an issue and I'm not sure what to do.

The names have been changed!

Here is the set up. My fishing buddy is the cousin of my grandmother-in-law. I love my wife's family as my own. Well my grandmother-in-law is letting both my uncle-in-law (Bob) and my buddy's son, I call Knothead (forum correct) live with her due to some health problems she having. My buddy's son is about my age (early 30's) and walks all over my grandmother-in-law. The problem is that Knothead has been arrested and served time for ID theft in the past. I find out that Knothead recently took Bob's tax check, and signed it over to himself and forged Bob's name on it. Bob found out and told Knothead that he has until the end of the month to return the $1500 the check was for or he'll call the police. He is still furious over Knothead doing it the first time. Heck he won't even let his son live with him because of it. He refers to him as Dumb Donkey (I think that's forum correct). Now I know that my buddy doesn't know anything about this past time and that is my dilemma. Should be a friend and not say anything or should I let him know? I don't want him to find out that I knew and didn't say anything to him about it. I also don't want to seem like a kid tattle-telling.

What should I do?
 
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I'd say nothing and let Bob do the work. if he is happy and gets his money back, then so be it. If the grandmother does not know then perhaps you could somehow tell your friend that "you've heard rumors".
 
Sounds like Bob is a nicer person than I am...if he's really stealing something that obvious, then he's likely going to be stealing things that aren't that obvious too...

I'd have called the police the second it happened, for fear that it will happen with something bigger....Does your wife know about her grandmother? Perhaps she has some ideas...
 
I would tell your fishing buddy the truth. It isn't tattelling, it is honesty. I would be worried that Knothead is taking grandma's identity and using it. Protecting dishonest people does not do anyone good. If something were to happen and it came out that you knew, it would only put you in a bad light.
 
I'm having a bit of trouble following your thread with all the in-law and naes but if I understand, the guy taking the money lives with your grandmother-in-law or at least has access to her home. I think you need to do what ever you need to to protect your grandmother-in -law and her finances. Many people at that age are either unaware of what is happeneing or are afraid to do anything about it.
 
Let your friend know. It sounds like the kid is a scum bag and who will be the next victim? Maybe you, maybe me, maybe someone that won't deal with it as nicely(me). Let the kid do some more time, obviously the first time just didn't make a big enough impression on his character. This is only what you know he has done, how much do you not know about? If you are really this guys friend, you would tell him quick. Personally, I would take the scum bag out on a fishing trip and hope he falls overboard(forum correct).
 
If that's an IRS check, then it's a federal crime.

I'm going through something similar. My Mother-in-law's cousin has scammed them nearly out of their home. I am nearly to the point of hiring some thugs to pay him a visit (and this is in the Philippines, so I know I can find some cheap.

I'm in the tell your bubby group.
 
You gotta tell your friend to protect the rest of the family. If you don't and knothead rips someone else off, how will you feel?
 
Knothead is a family member of mine. Unless he's been cloned. :eek:

People like that CANNOT EVER BE TRUSTED. They can be forgiven, but NOT TRUSTED. There is a huge difference. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!


Personally I would have a family meeting with your fishing buddy, Bob, and granny. THEY ALL NEED TO KNOW. I would NOT let an unrepentant con artist live with me.


If ever necessary, here is how you deal with him. This sometimes works, sometimes not.

1) ZERO tolerance. Stealing a soda without permission or stealing a checkbook, he has to know that NOBODY will tolerate ANY dishonesty ESPECIALLY from him. ESPECIALLY from him.

2) Not allowed on your (or granny's) property is the next step. Must remain at least out of range of your compound bow.

3) Restraining order if needed.

4) Shotgun for the fun of it (well, if necessary).

5) If that doesn't work, let him spend the night and cover him with honey while he's sleeping and then dump a shovel full of fire ants on him:biggrin::biggrin::biggrin: THAT will get the point across.


Oh yes. I've dealt with Knothead before.
 
I didn't even see you were in NC. There are a whole lot of great guys that would be more than willing to have a talk with this guy. You can find them at a little place called Camp LeJune. Since you can't just walk into the place, just go to any bar nearby and ask for a hand.
 
Thanks for all the advice guys. I talked with my buddy and him didn't sound mad at my (thank goodness) but I could tell he was majorly P'ed off but asked about my last fishing trip to the coast and then got off the phone. Within about 30 minutes of getting off the phone my cell phone lights up. I got calls from my wife, monster-in-law, brother-in-law, and seven other in-laws wanting to talk to my about it. Only one was bent out of shape about me calling.

Now I'm really scared, I didn't realize that word traveled that fast through my wife's family. I'm glad I walk on the straight and narrow.
 
whteglve said:
Now I'm really scared, I didn't realize that word traveled that fast through my wife's family. I'm glad I walk on the straight and narrow.
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Never a better time to be a redneck (I always identify myself as one). Say what you will about a redneck, but you know if you mess with one, or any member of their extended family (anyone they feel like including regardless of the family tree), you gotta deal with all of em.

If you need a hand, I can call my Cousin down near Salisbury and have him come give an assist. He might bring a couple other family members if you want. I bet the girls can take Knucklehead down. :)
 
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